Virtual Counseling

Access to mental health support for children can be extremely challenging. As we all know, mental health services are not cheap. And it tends to be the families with the least resources that struggle the most to find the money to pay for such services. Thankfully many school psychologists are trained and comfortable providing services like this. Sometimes there is a school social worker who would also be a good resource for these students, especially the younger ones.

As the students become older (6th grade and above) they tend to isolate themselves more. It becomes more challenging for them to reach out at all if they are in need. Sometimes just the real face-to-face part of it makes it completely aversive. Luckily, we are finally living in a time where mental health services can be accessible through a mobile phone or computer. It is a new way of practicing mental health so many are skeptical and options are limited, however, I have firsthand experience that it is absolutely perfect for people like myself.

I personally have significant issues with anxiety and I am currently a stay-at-home mother so my schedule is not my own. When I return to the workforce it would not be likely to change in that aspect. I am no longer in need of counseling, but I really love that this option is available to me now.

I was a skeptic. I wondered how someone could possibly provide therapeutic services without seeing and observing during a session. And in some respect, those things can be lost, making the therapeutic process a bit more challenging. Many of the services offer a video chat or messaging services, which can be extremely helpful in times where emotions are high and typing would be cumbersome. My skepticism faded very quickly. It can be extremely helpful to be able to message your counselor as things are happening. I didn't have to wait a whole week or so and try to remember everything I wanted to talk about. The somewhat immediate feedback also helped me implement strategies quickly and more effectively because that waiting period didn't exist. I could show my face or remain fairly anonymous. It honestly provided me with a sense of more control than the traditional set up for therapy.

I bring this up because our youth will only become more reliant on technology to provide services. And it is our job to try to meet them where they are comfortable enough to share. This might mean having an open door policy, providing therapeutic supports in the school setting, or (if parents are willing and able to pay) using virtual counseling.

TalkSpace was the one I went with. The prices for what you were able to get out of it were the most reasonable for me. I did a lot of research on these and this one also had the best reviews. At the time there were approximately three options. There are likely more now as this begins to catch on. But don't hesitate to do your research and find options that might work for your students. This could be a resource that changes their life.

At the End of Each Day I Leave With a Sigh and a Hope In My Heart That I Did My Very Best

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

I find myself returning to this quote for comfort time and time again. It reminds me that I need to take a minute to realize that I am doing the best that I can and the best that I can is good enough...right?

This year has already been very draining and it's barely even got started. I am working more closely with the ED/BD self-contained classroom and we just got a new student in there a week or so ago. It's been hard. He has been diagnosed with juvenile bi-polar disorder. I've never really worked with anyone who is like him. He's such a wonderful and imaginative little guy, but can switch into a fit of rage and fury in an instant. I don't even have to be in the classroom all day and it drains me. It's not really physically draining, although at times it can be, but more emotionally draining because I know these kids all have troubles and trauma. I want to do so much to help them, but sometimes I feel like there's really nothing I can do or I just can't do enough.


Sometimes this job can be so taxing, but I still love it.